My 74 yo father is caring for my 79 yo mother who has dementia. On top of everything else, right now both of them are dealing with severe cough/colds. I try to help before and after work, but I am running on empty myself and can't be over there as I'd like to be. We have family who stop in for a few hours a few times a week but it's mainly him that has her care. She gets very confused and some days very belligerent but other days is very mellow. But now with her cold she needs more help and is more agitated. He gets stressed out so easily over everything! Dr appts, keeping meds straight, telephone calls, caring for pets. I try to make things as easy as possible for him, then I get accused of enabling him. He does not want to put her in a home, and balks at hiring outside help. This morning he told me he feels like giving up. What can I do to help him? My MIL has advanced Alzheimer's and we will be out of town this weekend visiting her. I hate to go away and leave them while they are both so sick. Does anyone have any suggestions?