can I get mom’s signature if she understands and agrees Who is representing her during her court containment and why is the hospital refusing to discuss anything with my father he wishes for them both to fill out wills and have me Handel there financial affairs but due to this particular hospital her final moments are being stolen and instead treated like a criminal
That your father is not fully informed is unusual in the extreme as even without POA and other papers, he is the next of kin. It is sounding as though your mom has been taken into "temporary guardianship of the state".
I think that you and your father must now see an attorney with all the facts in this case so that said elder law attorney can advocate for you in this almost certainly legal morase. I wish you the best of luck, but no, at present you cannot get your mother to sign anything.
I am so sorry. I don't know what all has led up to this, but there is some water already flowing under the bridge for things to come to this.
I hope you will update us.
I would start by asking for a social worker in hospital. When that person comes to you say you want information and you want to make an appointment emergently to speak with the hospital ethics committee, because you are not, as family, receiving basic information.
If they do not get this done within a few days it will be time to also contact JCAHO (go online for contact info) or the Joint Commission on Accreditation of Hospitals.
I agree with Geaton - perhaps an attorney is prudent in this situation - because if she is deemed non-competent to make her own decisions, it won't just a be a simple writing of wills. She won't legally be able to sign a document stating her wishes at that time.
Your father, provided he is of a sound mind, can of course have HIS will and wishes drawn up. But whether your mother can at this time is a more dicey matter.