He is constantly calling my name to tell me he has to go to the bathroom and to tuck him in bed but he is up and down a million times. He doesn’t give me a break I don’t know where to turn.
Please don’t choose to sacrifice your well-being trying to keep this level of caregiving going, it’s more than any one person can do, that’s why you’re feeling like “losing it” It’s not your fault at all. Tell your parent’s doctor as well as your siblings that you no longer can keep this up and it’s time for a new plan. Asking for advice here is a great first step, next ask for help locally to find what’s available for either in home help or a place that can handle the needs of your parents so you can become a well rested advocate for them. I wish you peace
Turn to a home for him, he needs more care than you can give him,
It is time to accept that you are in over your head and seek the alternative avenue so that you can get your life back and become his child once again, not his caretaker.
"I take care of my mother and also my father. I don’t have to do hands on for my dad but I do for my mother. They can be rather demanding and I don’t have a break only if my sisters come which they live out of state"
Your Dad may be "shadowing", which is a common dementia behavior. The person keeps calling for you, as if they never want you out of their sight. This behavior can last a long time, as it did with my elderly Aunt who passed while she had mostly advanced dementia. She shadowed for several years, constantly calling here sister's name, very loudly, all day long.
You can consider hiring an in-home companion aid for him to give you some relief but doing this did not stop my Aunt from calling her sister's name continuously.
Adult Day Care, is another option, as well as a good local facility.
It’s time for him to be in a residential care home where professionals take care of him.
This is the way he is now. There’s nothing you can do to change him. This is when a caregiver admits that it’s more than she can handle and makes other arrangements.
It is time to accept that you are in over your head and seek the alternative avenue so that you can get your life back and become his child once again, not his caretaker.
This is not working. Sending support your way.
"I take care of my mother and also my father. I don’t have to do hands on for my dad but I do for my mother. They can be rather demanding and I don’t have a break only if my sisters come which they live out of state"
Your Dad may be "shadowing", which is a common dementia behavior. The person keeps calling for you, as if they never want you out of their sight. This behavior can last a long time, as it did with my elderly Aunt who passed while she had mostly advanced dementia. She shadowed for several years, constantly calling here sister's name, very loudly, all day long.
You can consider hiring an in-home companion aid for him to give you some relief but doing this did not stop my Aunt from calling her sister's name continuously.
Adult Day Care, is another option, as well as a good local facility.
This is the way he is now. There’s nothing you can do to change him. This is when a caregiver admits that it’s more than she can handle and makes other arrangements.