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Start with I am 80 and a nurse, and I never yet met someone who loves their hearing aids. It can be even more so today when they need fine tuning with smart phones. When I haven't gotten past my "dumb" phone (jitterbug; I likely will never make it into the 21st century). Now if glasses are forgotten as well, I think it is of concern. While I often cannot FIND mine, it is clear to me that I NEED them. To get serious, have you honestly had the sit down talk with your Dad? What other things are you noticing? Are things in place for when/if you need to act for him? It took a serious accident to make my bro, who lived in SoCal where cars are crucial, to give up driving; luckily no one but him was hurt, but it was also the beginning of his being diagnosed, while in hospital for the accident with early Lewy's dementia. We were able to talk later. He had known there were "issues" and he ignored them. Your Dad can only be told by you that he would not want to end a long productive life having injured or killed a child with his vehicle. If you can tell us a bit more about your Dad and his circumstances we may give you a few more ideas, but there is always talking to the DMV about him. I sure do wish you good luck.
Lots of tough issues here. If he is mentally declining, I see a lot of red flags regarding driving. Have you had him evaluated for dementia? If he does have it, get the to state that he should not be driving. My state does not take away licenses. But once I had that info from her doc that it was a no go on driving, that was that. We had already taken her keys away (unbeknownst to her) since she wasn't driving since it was winter and icy, etc. and I "loaned" my car to my kids and drove her car instead.
If you have valid reason to doubt his ability behind the wheel, take it in for service and it just never comes back home. Disable something under the hood so it won't work. I knew I couldn't deal with the guilt if I let my mom drive when I knew she was a danger to herself and others. What if she killed someone? Yikes.
I'm sure they forget to put on their glasses and hearing aids. A lot! I know a lot of people don't love their hearing aids. I'm sure they take getting used to and maybe adjustments but you have to wear them every day for a good period of time (like a month?) to give them a fair try. I never made my mom go get an eval but I know that I will NOT be screaming or repeating myself. Nope. She just hears me wrong all the time and she always tells me "Oh I thought you said (insert something crazy or that rhymes)". I hate that game. Hubby was made to go for a hearing test and has mild loss in one ear and moderate in the other. So it won't be too long before I have to force him to get hearing aides.
It's possible your dad has a UTI if his decline is sudden. I'd get him to the doctor. They should also do blood work to rule out some deficiencies that add to confusion - low B12, low thyroid function, etc. And at 94, it's not a big surprise either, but I would rule out the low hanging fruit to see if you can get any improvement.
You state in your profile dad has Alzheimer's/Dementia. If this is the case ask his doctor to provide the necessary information to the Secretary of State (Drivers License Services) and the license will be revoked. You need to disable the care so that he can not drive it.
If that information is incorrect and he does not have Dementia and it is the glasses and hearing aids that is different. If there is a glasses restriction on his license and he gets stopped he may be ticketed. Hearing is not a restriction on a license but with the vision AND hearing diminished that is a problem. Unfortunately in some cases it takes an accident to get someone to make changes. I would say if dad is driving allow no one to go with him unless he is wearing both glasses and hearing aids. And I have to ask though...are both the glasses and the hearing aids proper for him? Are the glasses the right prescription? Are the hearing aids working well for him? Maybe some adjustment is needed on one, the other or both.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Now if glasses are forgotten as well, I think it is of concern. While I often cannot FIND mine, it is clear to me that I NEED them.
To get serious, have you honestly had the sit down talk with your Dad? What other things are you noticing? Are things in place for when/if you need to act for him? It took a serious accident to make my bro, who lived in SoCal where cars are crucial, to give up driving; luckily no one but him was hurt, but it was also the beginning of his being diagnosed, while in hospital for the accident with early Lewy's dementia. We were able to talk later. He had known there were "issues" and he ignored them.
Your Dad can only be told by you that he would not want to end a long productive life having injured or killed a child with his vehicle.
If you can tell us a bit more about your Dad and his circumstances we may give you a few more ideas, but there is always talking to the DMV about him.
I sure do wish you good luck.
If you have valid reason to doubt his ability behind the wheel, take it in for service and it just never comes back home. Disable something under the hood so it won't work. I knew I couldn't deal with the guilt if I let my mom drive when I knew she was a danger to herself and others. What if she killed someone? Yikes.
I'm sure they forget to put on their glasses and hearing aids. A lot! I know a lot of people don't love their hearing aids. I'm sure they take getting used to and maybe adjustments but you have to wear them every day for a good period of time (like a month?) to give them a fair try. I never made my mom go get an eval but I know that I will NOT be screaming or repeating myself. Nope. She just hears me wrong all the time and she always tells me "Oh I thought you said (insert something crazy or that rhymes)". I hate that game. Hubby was made to go for a hearing test and has mild loss in one ear and moderate in the other. So it won't be too long before I have to force him to get hearing aides.
It's possible your dad has a UTI if his decline is sudden. I'd get him to the doctor. They should also do blood work to rule out some deficiencies that add to confusion - low B12, low thyroid function, etc. And at 94, it's not a big surprise either, but I would rule out the low hanging fruit to see if you can get any improvement.
Good luck!
If this is the case ask his doctor to provide the necessary information to the Secretary of State (Drivers License Services) and the license will be revoked.
You need to disable the care so that he can not drive it.
If that information is incorrect and he does not have Dementia and it is the glasses and hearing aids that is different.
If there is a glasses restriction on his license and he gets stopped he may be ticketed.
Hearing is not a restriction on a license but with the vision AND hearing diminished that is a problem.
Unfortunately in some cases it takes an accident to get someone to make changes.
I would say if dad is driving allow no one to go with him unless he is wearing both glasses and hearing aids.
And I have to ask though...are both the glasses and the hearing aids proper for him? Are the glasses the right prescription? Are the hearing aids working well for him? Maybe some adjustment is needed on one, the other or both.