I was able to get him moved to a very nice county nursing home. I got him moved on his 20th day so his advantage plan is paying the coinsurance. That happened on February 8th. I was driving my mom to the cardiovascular doctor to have a probe put in her veins. It’s an hour and a half drive from my moms house we get there, wait an hour and then are told that it takes two weeks for pre auth so we drive back and I then drive another hour and a half to my house to be home for my birthday. On the 9 th my husband got my father in law moved, all good. Monday I drive an hour for my appointment for myself have missed it for almost a year and then I drive to the nursing home to take my father in law to his doctor and his doctor was looking at the second week of March but as I am taking him back my mom calls she has to be hospitalized because her leg and foot are infected so I pack my dog and I and drive the hour and a half. She was worried about her dog first. Does anyone ever feel like your needs or well being don’t matter? I was in a rollover accident on the interstate last fall due to cerebral atrophy due to anorexia for 39 years. My fault but I cannot drive as much as I did. My husband asked why couldn’t my brother check on the dog in the evening and morning and I would regroup and drive down in the morning. She says I’m sorry but making me feel guilty for even suggesting that. Anyway I don’t care what happens if she needs help with bandaging her ulcerative foot she is going to have to get home health when I am not there and then my husband is meeting with the nursing home team and social worker tomorrow and she is going to tell him that he cannot be left alone for 8-9 hours a day and then Friday the Ardc lady is assessing my father in law to see what he is eligible for. 1st problem he currently lives in this county when he is discharged he will move to a different county 45 minutes away from all his friends and doctors and they work all day he forgot to eat for five days and took one dose of his medication I do feel we are a better fit but I think I may be overdoing it we live in the city he has lived in 50 years I don’t work but as you read earlier I basically got home and had to turn around and come take care of my mom. I have to be realistic, I cannot take care of everybody. My mom is my priority but I brought up the fact that he is not going to be able to be by himself for very long and my husband is like well he understands but there is no other option. If he lives at our place we are going to the Bahamas March 1 no matter what, it’s time the others do something. So even if the nursing home tells my husband what he needs and he agrees but there is no way to make it happen. Also even if he is done with physical therapy, are there other criteria that is looked at for medical necessity? Like I said his doctor was looking at the second week of March and he feels he should live with us. But my husband is right, just because we don’t have children and I am on disability doesn’t mean everything is up to us. Me being on disability my health is not good at all. So I am going to try to simplify things. Social worker at nursing home advises family of what the patient needs for his next level of care. What happens or does anything if what they want just cant happen?