My parents live with me (both in their 90s). My father has severe dementia and alternates between sleeping a lot or being up all day and night. He is on Atavan for agitation because he fights us when changing him or trying to give him something to eat. My mother cannot stand watching him not eat and she will insist that the aide or I wake him up to eat. If we wake him he is so angry and will knock the food out of our hands. I asked his nurse and she said not to wake him. I told the doctor but he never said what I should do. The nurse says don't wake him to eat, my mother says make him eat, and the doctor is noncommittal. Does anyone know what to do in this situation? Sometimes he does eat three meals a day, sometimes two, sometimes one; each day is different.