A few months ago, my relatives told me they thought my father might be verbally abusing my mother. I talked to her about it. She says he is not. But, in the last month or so, his behavior has gotten progressively more troubling. He believes that my mother and I have hired people to spy on him. He believes (is terrified) that someone is going to wipe out his bank account. He has called people (relatives, doctors, attorneys) to have my mother declared mentally incompetent. I have been told (believably) that he has a loaded gun between the mattress and box spring.
My mother is not mentally incompetent. Sometimes she forgets things, and somethings she shows signs of cognitive decline, but for the most part, she is a competent adult.
She admitted today that he is "getting ugly" (a Southern term that means anything from rude or mean to physically abusive). Yet, she doesn't want me to take any action.
I have talked to adult protective services, but not filed a claim. (I don't trust their competency!)
I care about both my father and mother! What should I do?