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I was taking care of my neighbor whose wife passed away 5 years ago, and did not like being alone. He insisted that I stay at his house basically 24/7 and insisted that my husband and I go out to eat with him daily (although we insisted on staying home to eat), we always used coupons and got 2 for 1's (That way we kept the expenses very low - actually cheaper than if he were to go by himself - which he refused to do....) we now have a situation, he passed away while at the cancer center (1st day there). Him and I were going to take care of "the business" after he returned, so that his daughter couldn't leave me out of stuff.... "too late"..... his daughter has been quite jealous of me and has now turned into this wicked person.... "EVERYONE" knew I was supposed to get his dog, and he had a hand written addition to his trust, but I have a funny feeling it was shredded, and she literally stole the she dog from me...... this whole situation has just turned me into a basket case. So do I bill for services rendered (basically extending his life 5 years) or not?

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Your intentions may have been entirely honorable. Unfortunately, there's a bunch of bad apples who came before you and ingratiated themselves to, or exploited an elder for financial gain. The stories are all over the news and in law and district's attorney offices nationwide.

I think you have to chalk up to lesson learned.
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I could care less if it was paid (although we do need the $$), my family is just trying to get some justice for me because of his family being so (excuse my language) shitty......
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Were you a guardian of this individual? Did you have any kind Of formal written contract to provide services? Are you licensed caregiver?
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Plkime Jan 13, 2019
No, we were going to take care of that when he got back from Houston..... day late....
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Did you take care of your neighbor because you would receive something, or the dog?
Maybe it is the family dog, sentimental to the daughter?

Did he pay for the dinners out for all three of you? That was your payment.
If you did not like his company, and expected payment, you should have made arrangements weekly, in advance.

Do not bill for anything and create more hard feelings, imo.
You still have your husband, right? Really, after 24/7 at the neighbor's house?

Not accusing you, just some things to think about. Caregiving a neighbor is the closest thing to "no good deed goes unpunished", in my experience.
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Plkime Jan 13, 2019
No, the dog was not sentimental to anyone except me.... and he expressed to everyone (strangers included), that she was my dog.... I am worried sick about her, I have a feeling that if she gets out from wherever she is, she will try to find me.... she is very determined..... she is a teacup Yorkie, VERY loyal and has never been away with anyone else..... His daughter went against everything he said in regards to her and me... just to spite me... I actually feel sorry for her cuz she is the one who will have to answer to him....

I agree about the "no good deed goes unpunished", except my heart has been ripped out and part of my soul has a huge hole, and all she did was turn and made it worse. I did not ask to be his companion/caregiver, he basically quilted me into being there, and after a while I gave in, and he became (in my eyes) family....

I have respected his wishes and feel his family turned on me... in no way did we use or abuse him, but we did extend his life, and I feel his family should be grateful not hateful. That is why my mom and husband want to send a bill, whether it's paid or not, it puts a bug in the trust..... and they are trying to look out for me....

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You can bill but absent a written contract you will probably not be successful.
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