Follow
Share

My sister has rewritten her life and the truth of it and the caregivers who are family and not qualified in my opinion believe her and also pretty much tell her what she's not allowed to believe in what she's not allowed to do. They have threatened her because she is trying to help me, financially and otherwise, and they believe that I have instigated, manipulated, and basically forced her to help me. Nothing could be further from the truth. They believe her or would have her believe that, but since they are helping her pursue charges and she's perjuring herself I think out of fear of not being taken seriously or put into a home, she has turned against me and no one will talk to me unless they're threatening to throw me out of a mobile home that she bought for me when she was completely of sound mind. They have obviously convinced her that is no longer the case or never was and they are all coming after me to throw me out. It's horrible.

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Get a restraining order against these people, period. If you are sixty-five plus, you are a senior yourself and about to be homeless. Do you live with your sister? The restraining order will allow you time to get your ducks in a row. Find a new place if need be or maybe purchase the trailer home from her? Who has the bill of sale on this place? If this was a gift from your sister before anything took place and she was younger and in better health that is one thing. It is called family.

I would protect myself from this nonsense and lies. If she gifted it to you, do you have any proof of this in writing?

I don't know what happened in this situation. I went back and re-read your post. I see that you took her help in the state she is in now.

This is not good.

Protect yourself and get a lawyer in your defense.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

I’m going to be honest here: it sounds like you need to be investigated.

I’m sorry you have found yourself in this position.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

You cannot take large gifts like mobile homes and sums of money from a person with dementia or diminished capacity. I was a homecare worker for a long time. Family caregivers are different than hired ones. It sure looks to me like these 'family' caregivers want to recover anything she gave to you (even when she was well and of sound mind) for themselves.

Who is her POA? Why isn't it you? Does she have adult kids or other siblings?

You would do well to have a consultation with an attorney who specializes in elder law and estate planning. The first consultation is usually free. Tell them what's going on with these family caregivers and let them advise you. No one on this thread is a lawyer and you should definitely talk with one.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

Your ALLOWING an aged Sister to gift you money or mobile homes or anything else is endangering her. Are you aware of that?

Should your Sis require care in the next five years that cannot be afforded, then there is/would be governmental lookback to see how she spent her money. If she gifted to family or friends then she couldn't receive the Medicaid that is required to afford care when there are not assets enough to pay 5,000 and more a month per care.

I'm afraid I agree with Geaton that your note to us here has no questions, and isn't about caregiving. But your family is right to attempt to protect your Sis's funds if she isn't completely competent in making decisions, which seems to be the case if one moment you are being gifted and the next you are being accused.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

I so hope the trailer is in your name. If your sister has Dementia and ever needs Medicaid and that trailer is in her name, you may lose it especially if she owns a house of her own.

I think it maybe time to take care of yourself. You will have to eventually if sister should pass. Find the resourses for you to live on your own. If you get Social Security, you may be able to get Supplimental Income. Food stamps. There are food banks. Your County Social Services and Office of Aging should be able to help.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Why dont you Just drive away ? Sometimes it is best to leave a toxic situation .
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

You don't ask a question and what you wrote doesn't seem to involve you being a caregiver. This is a "he said/she said" story and we only know your side. If she needs a caregiver it's probably because she has dementia (which you don't mention) and dementia often involves memory impairment, loss of reason and logic and judgment, confusion, paranoia, confabulations and delusions. You should not be attempting to get or accepting "financial help" from an impaired person because, yes, it looks sketchy on your part from every angle. I'm reporting for removal since this is a forum about caregiving.
Helpful Answer (6)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter