Twenty years ago, my parents separated but never divorced. Back then, my father appointed me POA to his bank accounts. He is now terminally ill and my mother has said that after he passes, I am to withdraw all of the money and give it to her. She said she will use it to pay the bills. Should I ask my father right now if this is okay, before he becomes incapacitated? I don't know what to do. My mother and I are very close, but she is a very private person. I don't know much about her personal life since she left my father.