At the moment he is in a skilled nursing facility. He went there straight from rehab. He recently had his left leg amputated. And his right leg is malformed due to Polio as a child. (He does not have two legs essentially) And he weighs 250lbs. All of which is in his top half. - To the point. He went to rehab to learn to walk, stand and at the very least transfer from the bed to a chair, to the chair to a car and vice versa. During his time in rehab he did not progress at all. So I told him he needed skilled nursing or around the clock care at his home (paid by him) I got a HUGE guilt trip from him just by suggesting that. I called him out on the guilt trip and a few days went by. I had the exact same conversation with him (I have to work, he can't come to my house) He ignored what I said and told me he will go to his house on his own and "will manage, not much to it".
He is been in the skilled nursing facility for 7 days with 13 days to go. He is only now beginning to stand for a few seconds. Realistically, he will not be able to live on his own. I am trying to get this through to him. He keeps ignoring my words and downplaying the seriousness of his situation.
What do I do, when it is time for him to leave skilled nursing and he is far from having the capability of living on his own? I am trying to get some things in place now (and financially planning for it too) so we are not scrambling at the last minute to get him some where he can be cared for.
Do care facilities do an evaluation before discharge to determine if he can be released to live alone? Do I threaten to call adult protective services on him? Any advice would be helpful. Thank you in advance.