My problems with my husband are that he is very noncooperative. Taking him to Dr. appts. is excruciating. When it's time to get in the car to go, he refuses. I start the process at least 15-20 minutes ahead of when I should leave the house. If he eventually consents and gets in the car I am exhausted. When I get him to Dr. office I am so frazzled I have a very hard time communicating with the Dr. Yes, I've tried all the calming techniques for myself, but when you are in the middle of this --it goes out the window. Sometimes he refuses completely.
I took him to a dementia specialist 50 miles away and he refused to get an MRI so the doctor will no longer see him. This is what you get for "expertise" in dementia. He refuses to take vitamins/minerals that were prescribed by a different doctor.
I have general and medical POAs, but he will not allow me to use them to take care of financial matters. He listens to my phone calls and gets in the middle of the conversations --I cannot conduct business this way.
What good does guardianship do if he interferes constantly? The poor man has dementia, but he is a torture to deal with.
I would rather get a divorce, but I am all he has! Someone will have to look out for him.
I can not afford an assisted living arrangement. I have a caregiver come to the house 2 days a week so I can work at least part-time; it's necessary.