Take him to his local sports bar and let him watch it there with you or another family member. That way he'll still be around all the excitement and won't feel like he's missing out.
That's a great idea. Then you could follow up the earlier invitations with an email saying that you will be at x place at y o'clock and you hope they can join you, perhaps with their own family members. If more people turn up, it will be fun, and you may also learn a bit more about the issues for others of his friends.
Your husband has lived a long full life, and unhappiness is nothing new to him, I would bet. Life is full of unhappy moments when people fail to meet our expectations, right? What IS NEW is that you somehow feel responsible for this. You aren't.
Hubby has lived long and been through MANY an unhappy moment, and in fact many that are much more unhappy than this one. You handle it just as you would anything else. Enjoy the game with him and make it a good day.
Poor guy. Maybe a lot of his friends are in a similar situation, or just not up to socializing? Perhaps a quick phone call to a friend or relative at half time just to say hi and hope they are enjoying the game would cheer him up?
When he brings it up, change the topic to something neutral or positive. If you think he can handle it, take him to a place to watch the game with others, like a sports bar or restaurant. Or, order in his (and your) favorite apps and snack foods for the game. Will your sons be watching? If so, maybe text or FaceTime at half-time and/or after. My husband and son both love hockey and they text back and forth furiously during the games.
As a football fan myself, I’d be so sad for dh. If company would help, all you literally would have to do is canvass your own block or use next door app to do the same for your neighborhood. If his friends can’t even watch the sb with him, he should make new ones
My mom gets sad because her grand kids don't visit enough, or about many many things she misses out on. And I get it, but she uses it at times to make me feel guilt, and turns it into my fault, because I didn't raise them good enough, to visit there grandmother. So in return I would feel the guilty and take her on a shopping trip.
In other words I'm sure he is sad, but be careful of getting into the guilt trap. He may have just been sad, and doing something for him may be good, for both. But it also could be years of getting guilt trips
Life is full of unhappy moments when people fail to meet our expectations, right?
What IS NEW is that you somehow feel responsible for this.
You aren't.
Hubby has lived long and been through MANY an unhappy moment, and in fact many that are much more unhappy than this one.
You handle it just as you would anything else.
Enjoy the game with him and make it a good day.
I hope he enjoys the game, anyway.
If company would help, all you literally would have to do is canvass your own block or use next door app to do the same for your neighborhood. If his friends can’t even watch the sb with him, he should make new ones
In other words I'm sure he is sad, but be careful of getting into the guilt trap. He may have just been sad, and doing something for him may be good, for both. But it also could be years of getting guilt trips