My daughter is newly engaged and will marry out of state 4 1/2 hours from me possibly in 2 mos (August) if she can pull plans together. My husband died May 11th suddenly without warning and my mother is in an ALMC unit in my community. Mom is feeble and physically unable to walk easily, incontinent and needs 24/7 assistance to dress, bathe, give meds etc. Her mind is still intact and will know and be hurt if she isn't included. What do I do? It will be hard without my husband as it is and I cannot handle it right now. I don't want to pin this on anyone involved in the wedding but a 24/7 caregiver I don't know would need to be compensated well for at least 4-5 days. Thoughts?