It has only been 4 days....he's still adjusting. He is stage 5 of Alzheimer. We are lucky to have him in an Assisted Living place that will deal with some of his memory needs (like turning his tv on for him at night). He's not memory care ready (though I suspect at Stage 6 is when that starts). He wanted more guy friends and like most AL and MC places there only a handful of men. My dad is very ambulatory, no problems walking yet. He's not leaving his apartment to go to any meals (he does eat in his apartment) where I hoped he might meet a guy or two (though I don't see the men down there much at all). He also won't participate in any activities. I was hoping he would get involved even a little so that my sister and I could take a break. Any suggestions? We want to be able to step away but I don't want him sitting in his apartment all day because I fear that could lead to not great behavior and I'd like to keep him in AL as long as we are able. It be great for him to have someone that he gets coffee with and does one activity a day or even goes down for a meal. Any suggestions? He can be very social and loves to make people smile but he is also an introvert. Maybe I'm expecting too much too soon. Would it be worth finding a male care companion that I pay to stop there a few times a week?
is there someone labeled as “activities director “? If so, ask that person if they can find a way to coax him to join some activity he may like .
otherwise , if those ideas fail, could pay extra for an outside companion / sitter to go in and spend some time with him.
Are you and your sister visiting daily? some advocate to purposely spend time away the first week or two, which forces them to adjust and start interacting with people. Ask the staff what they think about that .