My dad was diagnosed with Parkinson’s about six years ago. My parents are still young (70 and 67). My mom cares for my dad but he won’t help himself and is running my mom ragged. He doesn’t follow any of his doctors advice apart from medication. He doesn’t do the physio exercises, he doesn’t do what the psychiatrist recommends, my sister and I have provided all the research and info we can find for him to read, but he doesn’t. My sister offered to take him to a Parkinson’s support group but he won’t go because he doesn’t want to listen to other people’s problems. He’s allowed this disease to take him over.
The observations I’ve made is that he’s learned to manipulate situations. If there’s something he doesn’t want to do or talk about, all of a sudden he doesn’t feel well. For example, I bought him a day timer to schedule his days and work activities into it so he’s not so dependent on my mom (suggested by his psychiatrist). He got upset, said he wasn’t feeling well and we never did discuss it again. Or, my parents have a cabin at a nearby lake. If there’s work that needs to be done (trimming trees, etc), he doesn’t feel well and my mom has to do it on her own or find someone to help her. However, if she suggests
going fishing on the lake, he can last all day without issue.
My sister lives in the same town as them but has two young children and I live 2.5 hours away. My mom can’t take much more and I don’t know how to help.
At this point all I can think of is outing him to his doctors at his next appointments but I’d rather not do that. Does anyone have any suggestions?