My mother takes him to his appts. refills his meds. My problem is my mother never interacts with my father until it’s time to go to a dr appt. He sits in his room all day and watches tv. My mother has forbidden me to see my father. When I call and talk to him she’s listening to the conversation & gets mad because she hears my father tell me he doesn’t get to go anywhere & he’s a prisoner. At one point two years ago he came to live with me for 3 months and we battled his cancer together & found out it was gone throug his PET scan. We also found out he had skin cancer on both hands and the VA dermatologist ordered surgery to remove it since it wasn’t to deep in his hand. At this point my father goes back to my mother & his dermatologist just freezes the lesions. Now, he’s in treatment for the cancer spreading on his hands.
My question is... I have a durable POA and I’m ready to use it. My mother is not caring for my father properly & I’m upset the Dr. in AL are just using a band aid method to stop the cancer. He’s a retired Army solider and all medical is taken are of. So, at age 76 the dr are just at this point billing to make money and prolong his life & not on a path of curing him... THE VA was on a mission to cure his cancer.
I’m appalled by the care he’s receiving and want to bring him to my home to properly care for him. Just need guidance & reassurance that I’m doing the right thing. My mother’s going to flip her kid when I show her the POA. I’ve held on for two years not using it and things have gotten worse not better.