Hi. My father is in a nice group home. 2 beds. Good care.
He's fairly healthy, very mentally ill.
My sister and I have power of attorney, but she has told everyone involved in his care that I'm not POA.
She has marginalized me when it comes to his caregivers, hospital, Drs. He just came out of another crazy hospital visit. Hes on the mend!
She is a social worker and won't take any advice or help. He needs us both. And I need to make sure he stays mentally active without her interfering. Even puzzles and pencils tweak her out. I can't tell his caregivers how to cook his eggs. She wants him to speak up for himself. He is. To me. But she doesn't want me asking them for anything he asks for through me. She says it could affect his care, or they might not want him. So he sits there all day. Stuck in his head.
I'm new to this. I'm aware I might be the one out of line. I am hoping someone can show me how to steer this new boat I'm in.
My family always gets along this way. It's drama or nothing, when all I want is to know he's as happy as he can be. He's paying for this stage in his life. He worked hard for that pension. And he worked his entire life to ensure we had the best of everything. Just trying to do the same for Dad.