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This is what I don't like about home hospice. The family is still doing most of the work. We had home Hospice for Dad but with Mom she was in a NH. Which was nice. When the Hospice was not there the NHs staff was.
Good that you are looking for a new Agency. Make sure they know when the aide is there its your time to yourself and sister.
Are you saying that you would prefer, that you need, to have a break when the hospice CNA is there? If that is the case, do discuss it with your case manager so they can arrange for two people to be there if a two person assist is needed.
Generally the idea is to have the last stage of life be as peaceful and good as possible, with family there, with more understanding of this end of life stage. Hospice used to be wonderful. I think now it often turns out to be like any care agency, with little support; one more thing that is "following the money". Wishing you good luck in this last time with the elder you love and have so lovingly cared for.
I agree about being involved with the patients care. Family members are usually the ones to give meds and morphine. But the whole purpose of an aide is to give the family some downtime. Until a couple of posts here, I have never heard of a family member being asked by an aide to help them. Mom had therapy in my house. She could get around Ok. I had an aide for bathing her. Yes, I layed out her clothes and made sure the aide had what she needed but I didn't help. Thats why their was an aide.
We did that after one of the CNA's just walked out and slammed the door leaving my dad half dressed and because I did reply quick enough for her. After that incident we requested her to have a helper. Long story short they had no one available to assist. So we got another Aide and she is not that great either. Then apologises for asking us to help all the time when we should be taking a break. I couldn't reply in a Christian way. So I said nothing and just looked at her like seriously.
So we looking for a different company but dont want it to be even worse, ya know.
It is unacceptable that they ask you to help. If you were to be injured, if the patient were to be injured or the employee injured while you were helping that would be a problem.
Tell the CNA that you are not able to help her or him that they should request help from another employee.