My Dad had a stroke about 14years ago. A year after the stroke my Mother passed away. Everything went down hill from there. Im at a loss as what to do. I dont live in the same state as him and have 3 children to care for as well. My brother on the other hand lives next door to him. Dads house is filthy, he doesnt bathe, and doeant eat very much either. I have tried to get him to move in with me so I can take care of him but he says NO. My brother says to just let him live the way he wants and if he doesnt want to bathe dont make him. The only thing that I can see that his wife does for Dad is to write his checks for his bills. My brother has told me that I should come there every weekend and prepare food for Dad for the week and freeze it. My husband and I do not have any family that can help with our children and I dont like them going to Dads house because of the filth. My brother says that he will never let Daddy come and live with me. I cannot for the life of understand him you would think he would be packing him up because he sure isnt taking care of him. Im at wits end. It hurts my heart so much to see him living the way he is and I dont know where to turn now. I cant get Dad to sign over POA to me. I am considering contacting protective services but I really hate to do that. Anyone else have any advice?