My mom passed 5 years ago. My dad has had cancer for 10 years. He is 84. He falls at least once a month. Each time he falls it has been when he has driven himself somewhere and fell. He insists that I stay in the hospital with him every time he has an accident, even though I have a family and job. He won’t stop driving even though he can barely stand up straight. He is very weak, but refuses to stop driving.
He is running out of money, so I have been paying for in home care for him for the last few years; however he refuses to acknowledge it. Recently he agreed to move into assisted living. I pay for that as well, at least until he sells his house. He will not go to the dining room at the facility. Instead, he has the facility bring him his food, which costs $8/meal to do. Or, he has his sitter come to the facility to bring his meals. His sitter is only supposed to come when he has doctors’ appointments.
Nevertheless, he told me that he doesn’t want to be around those ‘old people’ but then tells me that he’s lonely. He makes all of us feel guilty for not visiting more or calling him more. But to be honest, I get so stressed out with his complaining and demands that I don’t want to talk to him at all. If it’s not one thing, it’s another with him. Today, he’s complaining that his apartment is too small. Yesterday he called me 3 times because he wants a commercial free western television station. The day before, he called to find out how to renew his vehicle registration. He keeps my brother, sister and I so stressed. I know I can’t make him happy, but how do I get him to understand that???