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My dad is so mean and rude. He alienated everyone around him. I’m tired, too. I had to stand my ground today and told him I was done being his verbal punching bag. He shoved his walker at me and threatened to call a lawyer. He always uses his money as a threat. Since it’s just me and my husband taking care of him, how would I go about getting him in a home and not be cut off financially?

Decide to be an independent adult, not dependent on dad’s money and you’ll be free not to take his meanness. The smallest price you’ll ever pay for peace
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Reply to Daughterof1930
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No amount of money on earth is worth your happiness and peace of mind. Dad's money should be used for live in caregivers at home or to live in Assisted Living, not to support you or to give you an inheritance! Move out and dad can hire help to assist him!
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If he is mentally incompetent as adjudged by a court, he can't change anything. If he actually visits a lawyer and the lawyer observes that dad isn't understanding his situation or much of anything else, lawyer will not allow him to sign legal documents, but you never know what lawyers will decide about that.

You need to see your own lawyer, and no need to mention it to dad. Find out what your options are.

Please realize that dad's assets are his to do with or assign or bequeath as he wants as long as there are no legal stumbling blocks. We all need to assume that we will have to provide for ourselves and save accordingly, and we'd better. There's a lot of slip between the cup and the lip.
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How very sad that you feel like you have to tolerate your dads abuse just so he won't cut you off financially.
Let him call his lawyer, and you and your husband get on with living and enjoying your life, and quit worrying about your dads money.
You and your husband shouldn't need to have your dads money and his care or lack thereof should have NOTHING to do with an inheritance.
Hopefully you're not living with your dad, and if you are and are that unhappy....move out and call APS on your way out the door. They will come out and do an assessment and take over his care if need be. And quit worrying about your dads money. It's his and not yours, unless he decides to share it with you after he dies.
Is putting up with a mean and rude old man really worth your happiness, just for financial gains?
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Reply to funkygrandma59
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You are a married adult and you and your spouse shouldn’t be relying on anyone else financially. You can’t get him “in a home” and expect him to support you financially.

What is the back story, how did you end up as his live in caregivers?
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