My dad has been living with me and my husband for 3 years. Him and my mom got divorced 4 years ago. He had a major depressive episode and was in a mental hospital for 6 months. He has not been the same person since then. Since moving in with us he does not shower, clean, or do many outside activities. He recently retired 6 months ago so he barely leaves his room. He goes to McDonalds for breakfast each morning but does little else. He has no friends or hobbies. He has been gaining weight since he eats a lot of junk and does no exercise. He is not incapable of taking care of himself, he just chooses not to. I have conversations with him weekly about showering and caring for himself. I am only 27 and I have two toddlers to take care of so it makes it even more difficult. I am not sure where to go from here. Do I consider assisted living since he is only 63? Are there other options? He is not willing to have a home care aide help bathe him.