The last time I was on this site I had asked about memory care well I decided to get dad into a MC place that I felt comfortable with. He has Parkinson’s dementia and the sundowners was absolutely heartbreaking I tried so long to take care of him you can’t imagine how hard it was to let him go to facility. (Well I am sure most of you do) well he wasn’t there 48 hours and broke his hip had it replaced moved him to a rehab for therapy and two weeks later broke his femur on same leg. Now he is really confused and has lost at least 20 pounds in a month eating but have to feed him talks out of his head most of the time and wants to sleep hard to keep awake. He isn’t on much meds but still suffers from sundowners and always trying to get up without assistance can’t make him understand he isn’t able without help. I have fought for him so long now it’s like doctors don’t know what to say or do. My heart is in the way sometimes of me being realistic of where we are heading it’s like no one wants to tell me the facts anymore. How do I know when I should just let him rest instead of going to doctors and fighting to get help that’s what I feel I am doing?
We lost mom 2016 and I don’t want to let go, you know none of us do.
I was raised by a wonderful single mom and I remember praying for a dad until I was 6 and I finally got one. He was and still is larger than life to me we didn’t have much, but family was all you could ask for. I have to do everything I can for him just losing my direction now. Don’t know what to do or expect. Any information helpful if you have been through this. Thank you.