His evil wife died 6 years ago & she made her kids in charge of my dad. I called him a few months ago & they disconnected his phone. He is going to be 95 in a few weeks. The ass’t living said to ask the family. I am his blood not them ! I think he needs more care his memory was getting worse when I spoke to him. I am thinking of going to the nursing homes in the same area . Is that possible?
Wife could not make her kids in charge of your Dad. He had to assign the stepkids as his DPOA. And at the time, have no Dementia. Once Dementia is involved, the lawyer needs to determine if Dad understands what he is signing.
You need to find out if the steps have POA. If they do, not much you can do unless Dad is cognitive and can revoke theirs and assign you. You could also go for guardianship but Dad would need to be found incompetent to handle his own life. Its expensive but if you win, you may be able to reimburse yourself out of Dads money. Guardianship revokes any POAs.
And I would just say...Can you please tell me what room number Mr. So-n-so is in?