My father has dementia, and due to unavoidable circumstances that I won't get into here, my mother has had to care for him with almost no help for the past two years. She did an outstanding job of this but it has taken (and continues to take) an enormous toll on her health. I am now living in the same city and I help as much as I'm able - this alleviates some of the workload for her, but I also have to earn a living so there's a limit to what I can do.
My mother knows that she needs a break (whatever that may entail: someone to come in and help with my father, or having him stay in a respite place for a few days at a time) but sadly, her own mental functioning has declined to the point where she seems unable to go through the steps that are necessary to get this care organized. I have told her *many times* that I can help her with it, but she absolutely refuses any help (she is an extremely independent, private, sometimes stubborn person). At this point I think we're past the point of stubbornness though - she's just not thinking straight. I talk to her about this frequently, but it doesn't do any good because she forgets the conversations.
I've thought of alerting my mother's doctor about this situation, but I'm not sure whether he would even discuss the issue with me. Other than this, I really don't know what to do.
In the meantime, my father's situation is getting worse, as one would expect.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.