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So, is mom's actual residence sitting vacant? Did they dispose of her belongings?Maybe this is not a permanent move and he's bringing her back there at some point?
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Before leaving her home I signed myself up for notifications from her bank. That's how I found out that he moved her. One of the checks written on her account : guest bathroom update on the memo line.
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I cared for her for 3.5 years at her home where she claimed she wanted to stay until she dies. One day my bro comes to visit and he announces that "promised Dad I would take care of Mom. Beth, go back to Pennsylvania and get your life back." During those years I was with her he was going on vaca, buying boats, cars and trucks and a motorcycle. It sounded like he wants her assets....to help pay for his toys. Well, I had purchase a new vehicle, to be fair, but it was in mom's interest to have something a little higher than a Honda Fit for her arthritis in her hips. She offered to pay 1/3 of the monthly.
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beth, does your brother have durable PoA for your mom? Is your mom mentally or physically incapacitated? If he has PoA AND your mom does NOT have dementia or any cognitive compromise, you can legally pursue it. If he does NOT have PoA and your mom either dementia or not, you can legally pursue it. But if she assigned him as PoA before she had dementia, you have no legal recourse. If you are concerned he is financially abusing or neglecting her, then you can pursue it but you'll need proof to protect her or get guardianship of her.
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beth, is there a back story regarding communications with your brother and you? Have you been helping him care for your Mom?

Did brother physically move, or did he place your Mom in senior living? Maybe it was time that your Mom needed to have a village help her with her care, something one person just can no longer handle.

Please give us more information.
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