Heartbreaking for me as I take care of him. He won't let anyone come to the home to help. We have bars & shower seat. He now has sores on arms and legs since it has been many months. I try to wash with moist wipes when he lets me. Don't want to put him in nursing home since he is in early stages and makes sense most of the time. Also have 84 yr old mother living with me who is helping to take care of him. Do I just tell him he will have to live in nursing home if he will not bathe? I'm concerned he may get a disease. He also has had congestive heart failure since 2004 with now 15% ejection fraction, along with diabetes. The V.A. has him taking 12 medications plus insulin. Doctor said not a candidate for defibrillator. Any suggestions?