How do you handle it?
My younger brother does not want my older brother's input. My older brother is not bothered by that. I live in another part of the country. I think my brother resents the fact that I never moved to live with Dad, but he never will talk about it. I was there this past summer and my brother was angry and critical. He ordered me around and told me off. I could not do anything right. He seemed mad at me although he would do nice things for me.
After this summer, after one short, okay chat, he does not answer my phone calls anymore. He was mad at me yesterday, by email, and said, that I should stop asking how he (my brother is) as it causes Dad to worry about where he is. He is usually upstairs when I call. I do not ask my Dad how my brother is, my Dad as of late will always mention my brother, he wonders where my brother is, and he keeps bringing up the subject of my brother. I always try to change the subject but he brings it up again. My brother did not reply, on email, when I told him this. I don't think he believes me. My Dad has dementia and gets worried when he does not see my brother, and of course when I call my brother is usually up stairs.
I now have decided to call my Dad less (he has a land line). It's hard that my brother no longer wants to talk with me on the phone. We had nice calls for the last 2 years, and now, with no explanation he does not answer my calls (he has a cell phone). Yes, I asked, he will not answer me, We would only talk 2 to 3 times a month, so I did not inundate him with calls. I hear from him on email once in a blue moon like letting me know Dad had an eye operation.