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I would love to know if OP has made any decisions? Its been almost a week since she posted. Enough time to tell her BF and his family she will not be caring for this woman.
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Why are you taking it upon yourself to be the sole provider of care?
If your boyfriend is still your boyfriend, it is his responsibility. He is a 'partner' who does not value you. I would dump him and tell him and his family that his mother must go elsewhere. It clearly is not your responsibility.

If you and your boyfriend live together, you move out.

At 95, one would need to consider that decline will happen and more care will eminently be needed. I can only presume that this 'boyfriend' and his family had reasons to believe you would be the caregiver, be it that you agreed initially to take her in or perhaps you are not assertive enough to set boundaries of the care you would provide. Whatever the history, it is now time for you to very clearly state your boundaries.

She goes.
And, so does this boyfriend.

I note that I read here that 'her family' is making these presumptions. You do not include your 'boyfriend' and I wonder why - not. Isn't he in the picture any longer? Are you NOT holding him accountable - for his own mother?

If they do not make arrangements, call Adult Family Services and have them come over to evaluate the situation. Unless you've made some legal agreements to care for this woman, I cannot image why you would put all this responsibility on yourself.

And, you say you work full time ... why would this woman be moving in with you if you are working full time?

As you ask what you can do, I sense that you do not feel or believe you have a choice in the matter. You do.

She has family and it is HER family's responsibility to manage her care and financial needs. It sounds like after 10 days in the hospital YOU allowed her to return to your home - ? I do not understand why.

In any case, as long as you continue to care for this woman, her family, including your 'boyfriend,' will expect you to continue. It is up to you to decide to change. They have no reason to since you are doing what they are responsible to do - care for her.

This boyfriend and his family do not respect you.
Why do you refer to him as your boyfriend? If I were you, I would be so angry at his and his disrespect shown to you, and his mother, they both would be out the door yesterday.

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