She’s from Italy. I think it’s okay, or not okay? After she has little bit problem she starts talking too much. She calls her family, mother, father, and other people who died one time. I don’t know, I think it’s not good deal giving her wine.
A lot of doctors actually recommend a glass of red wine a day. Studies have shown it helps reduce the risk of heart disease and makes you live longer. If she wants a little red wine & your boyfriend is ok with it, give it to her! You don’t have to give her a full glass. I like the idea of watering it down. So yes now I am advocating for giving alcohol in a nursing home LOL!
I vote to give her a little (like 4 oz or less) with food. You can make it a spritzer by adding some Pellegrino (sparkling water) to stretch and dilute it. My grandparents are from Italy. My entire family drank red wine from the time we were very young (i'm talking grade school, mixed with 7-up and only about 2 oz with meals). It's good for you! Just ask my mom (90) and her 7 other older siblings who all lived well into their 90s (still living: 93, 95, 97 and 100 yr olds). They just don't overindulge. Salute!
Many Italian are red wine lovers, and drink it with all meals. You can get by with a whole lot with red wine. Just a little in a lot of water still smells lovely. So get one with a fine strong bouquet and water it down a bit. I would hate to think of a lovely Italian lady deprived of a bit of vino with dinner.
I.m not sure what a "rest Home" is? AL, MC, NH or a private care home? I know at the AL I worked at, they had happy hour. When my mom was in cardiac rehab she was allowed her nightly wine once the Dr OKed it. Dads MC,, nope. So I'd ask if its allowed ( seems it is from the post), and if she wants a nip.. water it down with ice or grape juice.. I do that with moms..
Absolutely, as others suggested, check with her doctor or the facility. At my mom's assisted living they have happy hour every Sunday and if the residents want wine it is only 1/3 wine and 2/3 grape juice. The others get straight grape juice. The care givers know who should and shouldn't have wine.
Alcohol in my mother's Assisted Living community was perfectly fine & she was allowed to keep it in her apartment, to be consumed as she wished. Nowadays, in Memory Care, alcohol is not allowed unless ordered and prescribed by her doctor, and then it's doled out by the care givers only, not to be kept in her room.
It may not be a good idea to give your b/f's mom any wine, especially if she's acting out of sorts when you do. Please check with the facility first and they can advise you accordingly.
When mom was home I would give her a very small amount of red wine, probably about a quarter of a cup. She enjoyed it. Any med is not to be given and consume alcohol. I don't see how a very small amount would cause harm. But, do check with the facility, first. Mom's doc did not think it would cause any problems and may actually help her relax a bit. Her sundowning behaviors at times were completely nuts and off the charts.
Before you give her ANY alcohol, I would absolutely check with the doctor at the facility. Many of us are on medications that can react very badly with alcohol. Is there some reason that you feel she “needs” wine? I have many Italian friends, some from Italy, who don’t drink at all. If after just “a little bit”, she starts babbling and hallucinating about dead relatives, she obviously cannot handle it and you should not give her any more.
When someone is in a care home, it’s a good idea to check with the staff regarding their policies. In nursing homes, for example, any form of alcohol can only be consumed when there is a doctor’s order. And for good reason: she may be on medications or have a specific medical problem that is contraindicated by alcohol consumption. So just be safe and double check.
This isn’t universally true. Alcohol is allowed in a lot of nursing homes without a doctors order. It all depends on the individual nursing home policy and state law.
If she wants a little red wine & your boyfriend is ok with it, give it to her! You don’t have to give her a full glass. I like the idea of watering it down.
So yes now I am advocating for giving alcohol in a nursing home LOL!
It may not be a good idea to give your b/f's mom any wine, especially if she's acting out of sorts when you do. Please check with the facility first and they can advise you accordingly.
I don't think giving her wine in a rest home is your role.
It was really good of you to ask Tanyas.