My boyfriend age 70 has died. Can his brother deny me of my items?

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My boyfriend, 70 years died from Cancer (last diagnosed, Brain Cancer). While in Hospice his brother flew in from NC obtained POA to handle cars, etc. He lied to me, used me for information, handed $500 to me, took my love and all things which I believe belonged to the both of one or another, gave me a nonworking car pretended we would be in touch. Once things become clearer, so now he ignores my request of items and $1500. I've been soley of soul love with my man until the end when they left to the airport. We did not live together, however we were together everyday till no more. I'm in NJ and his brother is in NC. Can he deny me like this? Just vanished and lied .

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It's probably a long shot, but you could ask the police if he could be charged with larceny.
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Lisroc, I am so sorry for the loss of your man. WE never know how family members will reveal themselves unless there is a crisis.

But, unfortunately, even though you say you had a great love between you and your boyfriend, unless he detailed specifically what things you were supposed to get and wrote them in a will, you’re probably out of luck. If his brother lives out of state and had to take time out of his life to come down and handle his stuff, he probably wanted to get it done as soon as possible and then go back to his own life. He may even have gotten complaints filed against him by the city for the property and things collected on it that you might not know anything about.

I hope that this all works out for you and you get back at least a few things you treasure.
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I think its so wacky, tacky, to so call give something to someone inoperable . I do know it did cost the brother to remove the vehicles but he told i would have access and turn around and vanish. So BITTERCOLD TO DO SO. WHY DOESN'T HE KNOW I ADORE HIM BECAUSE HE IS MY LOVE BROTHER. I THOUGHT I MADE THAT CLEAR TO HIM WHEN WE.
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That brother dont know anything about all of those treasures just by meeting him a few times i know, i can tell. I looked around and no statues of interest , no intriguing pictures, absolutely no sports memorabilias. Nothing. I introduced my BF to it. Heck, my family introduced it to me when i was a child shopping along. Just sickening, i have to start all over.
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Did your boyfriend have a will? If there wasn’t anything in writing to specify what your BF wanted to leave to you, then the brother has nothing to direct him when he distributes your BF’s assets.
If the brother isn’t taking your calls write him a letter asking if you both can meet or something to discuss your BF’ property as he probably doesn’t know what you & BF planned.
Be polite the first time as he may be grieving too.
If he doesn’t respond I would get yourself an attorney. You mention probate, does that mean there was a will but it hasn’t been settled yet?
If the will didn’t specify what was to go to you and only a verbal agreement between you & your BF, it may be that you won’t receive anything, so be prepared. Hopefully your BF made a will when he was first diagnosed.
Good luck!
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You know what they say about one man's treasure being another man's junk? - brother may see the broken down car and cash as sufficient compensation. Do you have receipts for any of the items, is there any way to prove their value? I'm sorry to say that unless you have proof of ownership and the value of the items you may be out of luck. Even you called yourself and your BF hoarders, although you and BF may have seen potential in the items you collected his brother perhaps saw several vehicles full of "junk" that had to be disposed of, and it probably cost him $$ to do so.
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Well, the $1500 is for driving ?? I have a surcharge with DMV in which my boyfriend was going to work with me. His brother signed over a car, a car that was going to be fixed up to a showroom appearance. My boyfriend and i just never got around to it . I want to pay all money at once. Believe me. Its valuable things his brother have not discovered or maybe he have and is avoiding me. I guess i should request more money if i can. Things is, i know i will be paying something for maintenance is to why i want to cover tge surcharge.
I cant do all.
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Thank you, He and I have been dating for 10 years, we also lived together. I moved into a studio down the street and he wanted to live in a hotel room. He had 3 cars and a bus, we bought items together and stored items throughout the vehicles. We were hoarders of antiques and sorts, we had hobbies. The reason he left is because his Cancer was terminal and so he prepared himself. His brother came for few days to tow everything off the property of Hotel. His brother told me when i was ready things would be accessible in NC.
So now i assume he blocked my calls and he does not reach out . Its been since October.
He fooled and i really cant believe it, he was very nice and cordial towards me.
I really dont know him well, we spoke on the phone frequently because again i was together with my Love everyday , so if my Love called i was there to say hi. I am not mad at his brother, i actually feel sorry for his ways..i thinks its shameful.
I was no baggage handler , i loaded things in those cars and alot of things there i am the reason its there. Its like all of a sudden these interest is now his intrust?? FOR SHAME.
SO , going to a Probate court is the answer?
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I could see getting your personal items but why $1500 if you were not married or living together?
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Lisroc7, so sorry for your boyfriend's passing.

Curious how long were you and your boyfriend together as a regular item? What items of yours were at his home since you didn't live with him. I assume his brother cleared out his brother's home.

Was your boyfriend's brother the Executor of his Will? Or was there a Will? Did your name appear in the Will? Is the Will in Probate in New Jersey?

You mentioned "they left for the airport". Who else from the family was there?

I realize this is tough for you, as you are grieving. State Laws are different when it comes to someone not being married to a sig other compared to being lawfully married.
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