A handful of lawyers and conflicting wills have delayed determining who the executor is. I had a phone call from lawyers secretary just yesterday saying I could drop everything off to them. When I asked for a document stating that an official executor had been determined, I never heard back from them. I may mention that the wife is friends with the lawyers and that she is a bad alcoholic. I am the only one who has codes to his business, company checkbooks etc. Millions of dollars are at stake. I'm now receiving threatening phone calls demanding "I hand over items if I know what's best for me or it won't be pretty". Can I safely give all I have to the dept of aging and have them take care of this properly?