My sister has had serious paralysis issues for 50 years, since a stroke at age 26, but is very intelligent and personally capable. BIL was a good man who was very successful and made a lot of money, but he was difficult and very dominant. Their two sons both have had major issues with him, are both under-achievers in their 50s, and their relationships with their mother (ie my sister) have been very difficult because of this. Both sons live 1000 kms away, but BIL and my sister have two houses (one there and one here where they grew up), and the death was here. They are both here now, but heaven only knows what happens after the funeral later this week. My sister, aged 75, will make her own decisions, and all I can do is be a sounding board and provide any information she doesn’t have. I probably know all the options, but I would be very glad to be reminded of them from personal experience of other people on the site (the upsides and the down sides, and money being basically no object), plus a little sympathy. I have known BIL since I was 12, 60 years ago, and it is hard for me too.