I have an aunt who I’m struggling to help and I could use some advice. A little background: She suffered a series of strokes about 6 years ago which has left her with some cognitive issues (memory, personality changes, mood swings, judgement, etc.). Her husband, who was her primary caregiver recently passed away. She is 78 years old, lives 6 miles outside of town and she does not drive, therefore is dependent on others to help her. Her personality is such that she is extremely stubborn and she will not accept advice or help unless she asks for it and then only on her terms. She’s pushed away many of the local friends who have helped her in the past. I’m worried that her judgement is such that she does not care for herself well (she doesn’t seem to eat much/well, not sure if she’s taking her medications, uses poor judgement). She is scared to live alone in her house but does not want to leave. One day she will be receptive to the idea of moving into an assisted living/senior community and the next day she refuses to even consider it. She’s gone back and forth dozens of times. She will not accept help from anyone in moving forward with anything and is becoming more agitated and reclusive. I’m concerned that it’s time to bring in a professional to do an assessment. I don’t think she can oversee her own care anymore but if she will not accept help willingly, what’s the alternative?