My dad has resided at the Armed Forces Retirement Home (formerly The Soldier's Home) in Washington DC for 20 years. He was diagnosed with metastatic prostate cancer 18 months ago and Congestive Heart Failure a year ago. He also maintains a permanent Foley cath and recently -due to a poorly administered IV has lost use of his left arm and hand.
Prior to the IV incident he was living fully independently. He was very active, walking 3 miles daily, taking care of himself.
Now he's been moved to an Assisted Living quarters but has significantly declined in mental and physical health and has requested to be moved to Long Term Care quarters. His request has been denied by the Home because he remains fairly self sufficient. He is tired of keeping up the pace but feels he must because it is what the Home expects of him.
I'm just asking opinion if he's being unreasonable in his request to go to Long Term Care where he can have more care and be more comfortable to face the inevitable undeniable end of a beautiful life.
I feel at his age, with his diagnosis and prognosis, he deserves and should have what he wants in order to die with dignity.