My 94-year-old father just came home from rehab. Any advice?

As to responses that he should have gone into managed care instead of coming home, if my mom had done that she would still be on a catheter and not walking. She only made these improvements at home with home visits of PT, a nurse and my guidance.
Of course it depends on whether your dad is physically safe in your home until he gets stronger. I am sure he is bigger and heavier than my 5 foot 140 pound mom — who will now be going to an ALF/memory care facility. But she’ll go in walking and without the catheter.
Wishing you good luck, strength and patience on this journey.

Hothouse, thanks for the update.
Yep, you are going to need to let mom drive the bus into the ditch.

Sad, but it will be her choices that determine her future.

As far as going back in January, you could postpone it. You’re burned out, they won’t cooperate, and as my grandmother used to say, “Let them stew in their own juice.”

Hothouse, your update. Mom driving into the ditch, the house of cards. All of it. I get it!

Empathy is draining away from your burnt out shell. Will there be anything left when the real grieving time arrives?

'Caregiver fatigue' is what My Doctor called it.

Edit: Actually caregiver fatigue was 'burnout'.

'Compassion Fatigue' was the other term. I think it describes it well.