She is incontinent and won't change pads and depends regularly, doesn't bathe (just a washcloth that she doesn't wash regularly), has a hard time remembering to take her meds. Husband and I work full-time and live 15 minutes away. It's becoming overwhelming with her demands. Gentle hints at "Mom, can I come assist you with a bath sometime" or hiring someone to just come in (who's already in the facility) to make sure she's got her meds for the day, compression sox on, and a bath on occasion has her fuming! "I don't need help!" Yes, Mom, you do. Please let us! What can I/we do?