Thank you everyone. She is starting the spiral of dementia. My husband and I are talking about a home now. Problem is can’t find any open yet. We do have virtual visits with dr. She on meds for depression and sleeping. Today she informed me her son has been dead for six weeks. Btw the little guy is our grandson. He only had his feelings. Hurt but that was enough for me. I screamed at her for the first time after that. But I also strongly agree it’s time forher to move to a care facility Also have call into dr. My hubby backs me up 100 percent. All other people here are over 18.
Anna123, I remember back when my Dad was seeing ants on the wall and in his food. I knew right away he probably had an Urinary Tract Infection. A quick trip to urgent care, test was done, and sure enough it was an UTI. After the antibiotics kicked in, the ants started to disappear.
As another writer had mentioned, a UTI can also cause violent behavior.
One does have to be careful. With memory loss, a person could become very jealous of a child in the household, so you need to watch mom-in-law very closely. What does your spouse think of this situation?
Hitting a child is unexceptable. You must talk with husband about moving his mother to a Memory Care facility. In the meantime, keep your child away from her. Also, call MD and have her tested for urinary tract infection as this can cause violent behaviour. Also aske MD about drugs to help calm her.
The child is in danger. Someone could report you at child protective services and remove the child from the home. Best find another place for MIL n to live and quick.
Based on personal experience I would request blood work. Check her electrolytes. Low sodium will cause the type hallucinations you mentioned. Check her for a UTI. Also can cause acting out and hallucinations. Has she had a recent doctor visit? Might be a good time for a telemedicine visit. Seek care from a geriatric primary and it is suggested often that a geriatric psychiatrist best to evaluate her meds. You don’t mention dementia in her profile. This sounds like dementia but it could be caused by the things I’ve mentioned. Also from my personal experience as much as elders love young children I think a short monitored visit is best. Some have too much anxiety to tolerate young ones for long. Depends on the elder and depends on the child. Elders are often jealous of ANYONE or ANYTHING that takes attention from them. Hope you aren’t caring for MIL and babysitting three year old. Might be time for you to have some alone time. Give us feedback and we will try to help. edit. Missed that it was your child with a 92 yr old MIL. sorry. Tough situation in this time of C-19.
She has to leave. Once a child is in danger the child’s safety is of paramount concern. If you do not arrange to have her removed from your home you may have child protective services taking your child away.
Today you tell your husband that you and the kids are leaving the house until such time as his mother is placed in care.
As another writer had mentioned, a UTI can also cause violent behavior.
One does have to be careful. With memory loss, a person could become very jealous of a child in the household, so you need to watch mom-in-law very closely. What does your spouse think of this situation?
Seek care from a geriatric primary and it is suggested often that a geriatric psychiatrist best to evaluate her meds. You don’t mention dementia in her profile. This sounds like dementia but it could be caused by the things I’ve mentioned.
Also from my personal experience as much as elders love young children I think a short monitored visit is best. Some have too much anxiety to tolerate young ones for long. Depends on the elder and depends on the child. Elders are often jealous of ANYONE or ANYTHING that takes attention from them.
Hope you aren’t caring for MIL and babysitting three year old. Might be time for you to have some alone time. Give us feedback and we will try to help.
edit. Missed that it was your child with a 92 yr old MIL.
sorry. Tough situation in this time of C-19.
Today you tell your husband that you and the kids are leaving the house until such time as his mother is placed in care.