We are in our 5th year dealing with Vascular Dementia. My 91yo wife believes her home is in an adjacent city, Panama City. She packs to go home nearly everyday. When asked the address she gets more agitated. She says she can show me. In the past year, I have driven countless hours with her directions only for her to get frustrated and more agitated. The longest drive has been 2 hours. Usually, she will get tired, fall to sleep for a few hours, and forget. But...she gets upset because 'someone' has been in her room and packed her clothes! Yesterday we hit a new level. She went outside and yelled for HELP! The police showed up (they already have documented incidents) and used their resources to prove she doesn't have a home there and demonstrated that she is indeed in her home. She promised she would stay. She wanted me arrested because I'm keeping her from going home. The officer was very compassionate and talked that away as well. This morning, she is back at it again. I'm exhausted!! She is still quite independent and attends to her own ADLs with some prompting and reminding. She has been with In-Home Hospice care for medical purposes because she refuses to go to her doctor appointments. Any solutions from anyone else dealing with this issue?.
Ask hospice to give her some Ativan for anxiety. It helped my mother a lot when she was anxiety ridden and demanding to ride the subway to go home to see her (deceased) parents and siblings in New York (from Colorado).
Good luck to you