We lived on Long Island for our whole lives and always dreamed of moving out of state in our later years, so we did 9 months ago. We our thrilled with our decision, and mom has adjusted nicely. Lately I've been feeling a little resentful and trapped. I feel very guilty for this, however I can't go out for the whole day, as she expects her dinner at the same time everyday. She's not really capable of doing much for herself anymore. I have an aide in 3 hours every morning except weekends to help bathe and get her dressed. She has moderate dementia and doesn't do well with any kind of change. My husband and I want to go away for a couple of weeks in July and were going to put her into a nice respite facility so she would be cared for while we are away. I'm stressing out about letting her know this, as she punishes me by giving us the silent treatment and acts extremely spoiled and childish. I don't know how to handle this. How do you get rid of the guilt?