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My mother had 2 wonderful, calm golden retrievers before she decided she needed a watch dog. So she got a German shepherd puppy, and 6 mo later, two more. One of the retrievers died so now she has one calm sweet dog and 3 that are destroying the house. They are all over a year old and not housebroken or even trained to sit. They steal the food off her plate, tear up the furniture, eat holes in the walls and destroy her shoes anytime they’re not on her feet. They climb on the table and jump on her bed and it’s out of control. She says it’s too late to find them new homes because she loves them. The home smells awful and can’t be a very healthy environment for her to live in. Her health is beginning to fail and she can’tdo as much as she used to. Relatives don’t want to visit and when they do won’t even drink coffee there. I’m in another state but my 3 siblings are there. My sister is wonderful and visits regularly to clean and assist. I’m willing to fly there to help when we come up with a workable plan. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

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It is obvious to me that your mother cannot care for the dogs and perhaps not herself either. I question why your three siblings there do not handle this situation. It is animal abuse to allow these dogs to behave as they are.

Call animal control - if your siblings won't manage the situation 'now'.
Clearly, your mother cannot do anything. As you / someone says they are expensive dogs ... so be it. Sell them. Do what you need to do. It is heartbreaking that 'expensive' dogs were not / are not trained to behave. I wonder why not?

It is important that you/r siblings have your mother medically assessed.
Sounds like she is either depressed, has dementia or both.

It dosn't make any sense to me that one of your sisters visits regularly to clean and assist. What exactly is she doing ? She is allowing a very destructive situation to continue. Someone needs to intervene. If not the family, call Adult Protective Services and/or Animal Control. This is an unhealthy situation for everyone concerned.

Google Teepa Snow. Learn about dementia and how to communicate / work with a person with a changing brain.

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Thank you for your reply. To clarify, her dogs are not locked inside all day, they have a doggie door, a patio and a fenced in yard. They’re in and out all day but the weather is cold where they live so they’re inside more often than out. Animal control is not an option, these dogs are intelligent expensive dogs that could easily be adopted by people willing to work with them. This site has given us a lot to think about, thank you.
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While she is in the hospital, take care of this. Call animal control to take the shepherds and keep the gentle dog. Repair and clean up her house. When she returns tell her whatever you need to. They were aggressive towards you and had to be removed, they were rehomed with families that can provide space and attention, whatever will satisfy her the most. You say you are in your 70s so that means she is in her 90s? In that case it may be time to move her anyway to assisted living, or a smaller place at least, where dogs aren't allowed. Good luck. You need to act because someone is going to get hurt soon if you don't.
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Bulldog54321 Mar 10, 2025
Probably will be better to find a German shepherd rescue and donate $900 ($300 per dog) to them to encourage them to take the dogs in as most rescues are full.

Where I live, they will be euthanized in animal control care as they are unkempt, likely have heart worms from no vaccines, have no socialization and are in a dangerous breed list.
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Those poor dogs. Shepherds are high intelligence dogs with a high drive to work. They’re destroying the house because they’re understimulated and under exercised. If she is willing to hire a dog walker everyone would benefit, although finding someone who can deal with three untrained large breed dogs will be a challenge. I’m so sorry you’re going through this it’s awful to have to sit back and wait for a bigger disaster.
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Concerned2025 Mar 10, 2025
Great ideas. Thank you.
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Thank you for your reply. I don't think we're quite at the point of APS or Animal Control yet because once we do that, we'll be alienated. She is still competent although we don't always agree with her choices. We may try tag teaming her with ideas and stronger suggestions since there are four of us in contact with her. Maybe a united front will help.
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AlvaDeer Mar 10, 2025
How old is your mother? I am afraid I am disagreeing as to her competence, unless she has made this poor decisions lifelong. This isn't normal decision making for someone 90s. Wishing you good luck.
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Is anyone her PoA? Is so, it is time for this person to step up and manage this deteriorating situation before she gets knocked down and breaks a hip. As others have pointed out this is not healthy or safe for her -- or her dogs.

I'm not sure medical or social workers will enter a house with out of control dogs -- especially German Shepherds. She can keep the 1 calm dog, if she's able to provide proper care for it.

Perhaps the untrained dogs can be fostered? If they are too wild then Animal Control may need to be called but the situation cannot go on like it is without immiment disaster.
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Concerned2025 Mar 10, 2025
Thank you for your reply. Nobody is her POA and when it comes time for that it will probably be a court battle. Her dogs are not mean, just untrained, hyper and out of control. She has a hallway that she had kept the two youngest dogs fenced in, like an indoor kennel or dog run but they've since broken the fencing for that and now have the run of the house. Dogs would need to be locked outside if anyone other than my brother and sister come over. My mother is probably going to have surgery soon and I will be traveling to stay with her while she recovers. I'm concerned for her safety in general but especially as she recovers and truthfully am a bit apprehensive about staying there myself (I'm 70). We will have a plan soon though.
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Mom isn’t thinking clearly to be so accepting of this environment unless she’s always been content to live in chaos. This is also cruel to the dogs, they don’t deserve to be left to run wild and be constantly destructive. Does anyone have POA for medical and financial decisions as that may become important soon? Seems like she needs an updated medical evaluation as she’s not making good decisions and living in an unhealthy environment. Not saying you can force change, but in your shoes I’d more act like I could. Many times with my dad we got cooperation when we insinuated he had to work with us and choose a new plan, when in reality we couldn’t actually force anything.
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Concerned2025 Mar 10, 2025
Thank you so much for your response, it’s definitely something to think about. I’ll be talking with my siblings and will share your input.
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Can mom afford board and train for 1 or more of the dogs?

Intense training is gonna be the only way for her to keep these dogs but, I would bet, she will only be able to manage one of the Shepards.

I would encourage you to make it clear, no matter who is called, there are 3 German Shepards that have been allowed to be wild. They can seriously hurt someone if they are wild enough to operate as a pack, which is HIGHLY likely with German Shepards that one of them is the Alpha and another the Beta because no human is.

If your mom really loves them, she will let them have a chance at a life that serves their needs better. These dogs are smart and they need mental stimulus, rules, an Alpha human, proper nutrition among other things to keep their heads screwed on straight.
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Concerned2025 Mar 10, 2025
Thank. you for your reply. You've given us much to think about. I hadn't really thought much about the pack mentalityof the Shepards. Mom most definately is not the Alpha. Very concerning. Perhaps if we focus more on what's best for the dogs, we'll have better results.
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Time to call both APS and Animal Control. Or call APS for wellness check, warn of the dogs and ask that they take animal control with them.

But the sad truth here is that if she is competent? This is then basically her business. If that's the case, I would, were I sister, step away.

The call will come. Will be from hospital, APS because someone called them, or the coroner. You will then, while she's hospitalized, get a full assessment.

There's only so much you can legally do, and this must be legally done.
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