She is living in filth, multiple fall-risk obstacles in every square inch, rotting food in and out of the frig. When I try to talk to her about getting the house cleaned and de-cluttered (great understatement) she screams at me "just let me live until I die!" Does anyone have any suggestions? A year ago a visiting nurse made a hotline call due to the condition of the house. Two rooms were cleaned (kitchen and bathroom) and the investigator told her the rest of the house must be cleaned as well. He never showed up again. The place is worse than it was a year ago. In fact, it was trashed again within two weeks. I am losing my mind. any suggestions? I have almost decided to stop trying to do anything. My blood pressure is rising. Her doctor told me there is nothing I can do about it as long as she is "mentally competent."