I have been directed by my Dr to cease caring for her due to my back issues. Mom does not cooperate with me getting her in and out of bed. I am notto bear her weight. She will not give me permission to talk with her Dr and I have questions concerning her medication. She can't afford a caregiver and does not want to go into nursing home. There is nobody to help me. I'm 69 and must work part-time as substitute teacher to even afford to get back to my home 2000 miles from here. I'm at my wits end. I need help NOW
You might also want to reach out to your local Senior Center or Area of Aging center, and welfare office to see if they are able to help you themselves or with other resources available.
Cheryl
If you carry on trying to physically manage her with your back problems, you will do yourself permanent damage to the point of slipped discs, degenerating spine or even worse. Then what ?
Tell her you can no longer help to keep her in the current situation because you are risking paralysis and being crippled yourself. Lay it on thick.
Then call the appropriate authorities to say you can no longer help as you are becoming disabled. You need to walk away, there is no shame because you have manhandled her to the point where it will do you serious damage.
So you sit with Mom now and you tell her she must go into care, and you will visit her, but that your MD has strictly laid down the law to you that you cannot go on, something you already knew.
Will she be unhappy? Of course she will. I am 82. There's little to be happy about in the aging process, trust me.
You can sympathize with her, mourn this and grieve it with her, but your survival is now at stake. This is a simple fact. Like the sun coming up and going down. It doesn't matter who "likes" the fact and who doesn't. It remains a fact.
I have paperwork filed for waiver for caregiver. I was told today it may take as soon as a month and someone would be here to assess the situation next week.
Thinking of you!
Best of luck to you