Talk to her doctor about placement for her in another type of living facility and/or medication. Don't get yourself so stressed you lose control and commit some type of elder abuse.
Creed, has your mother ever asked her sons to help her? Or is she of the old stereotype that caregiver belongs only to the daughter?
Sometimes what happens when a parent moves into a grown child's home, or the grown child moves into a parent home, the adult/child dynamics kick back in. You are once again the teenager and Mom needs to nag you about doing things. Thus, there is no adult communication. You are still the "kid" and what do you know :P
One thing to check is to see if your Mom has a Urinary Tract Infections, as those infections are tough on the elderly causing the elderly to misbehave, rant, become violent, etc. This test can be done at your Mom's primary doctor's office or at an urgent care facility. The infection can be treated.
What are your Mom's medical needs? I see from your profile that she had Depression. I wonder if she is having other issues. If not, it's not time to place your Mom into Assisted Living or even a Nursing Home. It's time for your brothers to get off their backsides and help you out, or for your Mom to hire a caregiver [which I don't think she needs unless she can't dress herself, feed herself, etc.]
Thank you all for your insight..Not only do I not bet paid for being her primary caretaker..I left my job to care for her for a year..thinking she was really sick...now a year later..she is healthy..just a miserable old lady..I am a lawyer and probably lost $200k in the last year I have " babysat" her...I am not going to let her use me anymore...Thank you.
May be time to look into assisted living options. Your sanity and your livelihood are at stake. She likely will not be happy going into assisted living, but sounds like she's not happy living with you either. As it now stands, neither of you are happy. If you put her in assisted living, at least you don't have her at your door ranting. (note: even when in assisted living, my mother still rants by telephone; but at least I have the option to not answer)
Sometimes what happens when a parent moves into a grown child's home, or the grown child moves into a parent home, the adult/child dynamics kick back in. You are once again the teenager and Mom needs to nag you about doing things. Thus, there is no adult communication. You are still the "kid" and what do you know :P
One thing to check is to see if your Mom has a Urinary Tract Infections, as those infections are tough on the elderly causing the elderly to misbehave, rant, become violent, etc. This test can be done at your Mom's primary doctor's office or at an urgent care facility. The infection can be treated.
What are your Mom's medical needs? I see from your profile that she had Depression. I wonder if she is having other issues. If not, it's not time to place your Mom into Assisted Living or even a Nursing Home. It's time for your brothers to get off their backsides and help you out, or for your Mom to hire a caregiver [which I don't think she needs unless she can't dress herself, feed herself, etc.]
YES! Why is she living with YOU? Do you get paid for this?
Time for her to move on down the road to live with one of your brothers!