One of these neurologists referred her to occupational driver test which she failed on cognition. My mom lost a part of her independence which was very sad. Now I would like to move onto planning for her future but this is the situation. I moved in with her 1 1/2 years ago but my home is 2 states away. She does not like my home and I don't want to live in her State either so I suggested that we sell both our homes and try to agree on a home and location but she seems resistance. The earlier to move the better. Any suggestions on how to meet somewhere in the middle? I do not want to move her against her will. I am the only option she has and we live very well together. Sometimes she's ok with leaving this house and then she changes her mind. Even her only best friend is moving to her daughters in another State.
Your mom can not make decisions any longer so do not base your life on what she wants.
If you are going to look for a house look at houses that are either built handicap accessible or have been properly adapted. You want wide hallways, wide doorways, no stairs or at least a bedroom and a handicap bathroom on the main floor. You want a roll in shower sometimes called barrier free or 0 edge.
I could go on but I think you get the idea and I am sure that others will have more suggestions.
I also suggest that you contact an Elder Care Attorney and make sure you have all the paperwork that you need. And is there a possibility that you will have to apply for Medicaid for her if so make sure you are ready for that