Hi everyone, I am sorry if this question has already been asked but I am quite worried about my mum. Mum is 64 and in the last 2 to 3 years her behaviour and short term memory have declined. She has had depression for over ten years and has had a major family break down in 2015 that has affected her even more. Apart from bouts of sadness, crying and highly emotional moods mum has also had short term memory lapses. For example she forgets where she bought something, what she has gifted to dad for Christmas (yesterday), what date an event has occurred. She misplaces things a few times a week but eventually finds them (this didn’t happen as often before). She gets confused easily and a couple of times seemed disorientated in a shopping centre she has been going to for a long time. She remembers things once prompted or given more time to think. She still cooks every day, does all house chores, manages grocery shopping and spending. She has good days and then bad days where she just can’t remember if I told her something yesterday or day before.
Mum has been in an emotionally abusive relationship all her life, she has not had a long term career and has devoted her life to raising 3 kids. She has a few friends, but doesn’t interact with them regularly. She also doesn’t engage in any intellectual conversations, just has no interest in many things. She has always been like this. She takes care of herself, grooming and hygiene wise.
I am very close to both mum and dad and have taken care of them for over a decade now as their English is poor. I am super anxious about anything to do with mum and dad, constantly worried that they are not well or need my help. The three of us have survived 4 years of a civil war together, so my attachment to them is stronger than normal parent-adult child relationships.
I have taken mum to a memory clinic in May 2017 and she wasn’t diagnosed with dementia, but the report notes she has depression, that she scored low in the memory test and that she couldn’t do the clock test. I am concerned she has early symptoms of dementia that weren’t picked up on because mum was crying during the memory clinic tests. She is aware of her memory issues and is afraid that she is going to lose all her memory. What do I do? Should I take her for another test? Her doctor doesn’t think she has dementia and believe it’s her high blood pressure, depression and ageing. Am I over thinking this or should I follow my gut feeling telling me something is not right?