I have written for information and advice before. We were going to move into an apt. that our daughter and son-in-law would build over their garage. We were advised against that and our daughter took your advice. Our daughter and her husband purchased a home with a legal Accessory Dwelling Unit in the back yard. It is perfect for us. Being in LA will give us a much quicker access to medical assistance and many other family services. Being closer to our daughter, son-in-law and grandchild is going to be wonderful.
My question is how to prepare for the flight to LA from Co. We will be flying to LA sometime in January. We have flown many times before but we have stopped driving to LA because it is a 3 day trip. We have not flown for the past 2 years. We have always loved the drive but I am not sure my wife would be up for that anymore.
I would like to know how to make the flight easier and more comfortable for my wife. It would be a 6 or 7 hour very busy day (noisy, crowded, confusing) as opposed to three long days on the road. My daughter or our sons wife have offered to fly with us to help my wife with the facilities in the airport and/or on the plane (the last time we flew my wife went to the bathroom in DIA and I waited at the door and heard her calling my name, Ed, over and over. I asked a woman if she could go and get my wife and she said she would but then my wife came out helped by another woman. They were great people, very compassionate and understanding.
I would get plane tickets for the early morning, preferably on the least busiest day (if there even is such a thing). My wife gets very tired by the late afternoon and shows more signs of sundowners syndrome, anxiety and confusion.
Should I even think of some sort of pre-flight anxiety medication that I could probably get from our doctor. What about wearing something like Depends, Tena Intimates or the like. She does not need anything like that at present but might it make the flight easier for her and for me. I have thought about noise cancelling earphones or an iPad and ear plugs with some of her favorite (Maury, Steve Wilcos, etc.)TV shows or especially DVD's of music concerts (the Eagles, Elton John, John Lennons 75th birthday celebration, etc.). She does love the music of our lives (the 50's, 60's, 70's). Movies don't work because she can no longer follow a plot line or understand what the movie is all about.
My wife has been diagnosed with AD for 5 years but we knew that she had a problem for several years before that diagnosis (we thought it was senioritis but expected worse eventually). I have been looking at several sites that give the 7 stages of AD. I don't find them very helpful because while I would say she is in stage 5/6, she exhibits signs from all 7 stages.
This will be our last move (I am 81 and my wife is 76) and last trip and I am hoping to make it as smooth and as comfortable for my wife as possible. I know that many others have experienced this before and I am sure that I will receive many well thought out responses. I expect that I have not even thought of some of the cares and considerations that should be addressed. Any advice or suggestions that you can give will be greatly appreciated.
As my father used to say during the last 2 years of his terminal illness "growing old is not for sissies". I agree.
Thank you for any help and advice you my give me.