Just before we went on vacation, an apartment became available for my Mom (age 87) at the local Assisted Living facility. When I told her she did not say much and she had previously said she would give it a try. I made a down payment to hold the apt. and we left town. The day after we left, she called the facility and cancelled her room. Thankfully I have been assured by the facility that it is still reserved. My Mom at this point still thinks it has been cancelled. I would appreciated and tips on doing this transfer with a reluctant (or may be angry) participant. This is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do.