We told my 89 year old MIL in the spring we were downsizing so we could afford to retire. She’s lived with us for over 10 years and is a MAJOR hoarder which created many problems. I looked into Assisted Living Facilities near us but she wanted to live closer to her sister - about an hour from us. While on an extrended visit with her sister we bought a much smaller home and put our house on the market. She kept telling us she was looking for a place but hadn’t found one. Bottom line she doesn’t want to part with her hoard and sell her house to use proceeds for AL. She tells us she is going to move back in her home which has been vacant for 10 years. It should be condemned due to years of neglect, hoard and rodents/bugs. She wouldn’t pay for repairs or let us get rid of hoard entire time she’s lived with us. I believe she’s trying to manipulate us into living with us on a permanent basis again by threatening to move into her old home. She’s told her extended family we kicked her out even though we said she could stay with us on a temporary basis while we find a safe place for her to live. Her mental and physical health aren’t bad enough for a nursing home but not good enough to live on her own. She hasn’t driven and we supported her for 10 years without any financial assistance from her. We don’t know what to do BUT she can’t live with us on a permanent basis. Anybody been in this situation?